448 Adults only: The Fellatio Guide
Last week’s blog with The Pussy Guide
rang a bell with a few women (perhaps with a few men too, but I didn't hear
from you ... feedback, please, people).
Update, I now heard from Bill: "Good on you Carsten ... It’s a great pity that this topic hasn’t been dealt with in the high school curriculum" and from Bob: "... your amazing blog gets more and more ‘interesting’, can’t wait for each successive one!"
So I decided to follow it up with The Fellatio Guide (the joy of sucking cock) ... a user manual on
My
Tiny Secrets, by Candice
Holdorf, written from the perspective of her experiences. May
it contribute to more acceptance of the joy of cock sucking.
Over to you,
Candice …
I’m in love with
sucking cock. The soft folds in my mouth. The way a man
yields control with every flick of my tongue. It’s one of the most erotic experiences for me. The other day, I
found a new level of joy in this practice. My partner kneeled upright and
straddled my face, while I lay on my back underneath him. This way I could work
the underbelly of his head, as well as delight in the gentle curve where his
shaft met his testicles.
It was exquisite.
Licking his balls while stroking him with my hands, I felt like I was at an
endless buffet. He slipped his fingers in my pussy, pressing up, warming and
wetting me, as I reached around to finger his asshole. The more turned-on I
got, the more I wanted him in my mouth. I
wanted him to fuck the back of my throat.
My back arched as
my pussy reached for his hands. His fingers slipped in and out in sync with his
own hips. It was as if his cock reached down my throat and made direct contact
with my clit. The gagging, the spitting, the squirting – it was all an
orgiastic delight that made me hungry for him. I wanted him more and more
inside of me. I wanted to devour him. Until I couldn’t take anymore. I cried
out, my eyes rolled back and my whole body rocked and rippled in the choked
agony of climax. I was in bliss.
There is an
exquisite joy in sucking a man’s cock – something that I think more people
could experience if we can let go of the idea that a man has power over us if
we go down on him. Nothing could be further from the truth. It takes an
incredible amount of trust and surrender for a man to properly receive your
mouth. I suggest we give up the power struggle, admit our resentments,
forgive each other and get back to the good, old-fashioned joy of fellatio. And
so, dear ones, I offer you … three
delicious tips to help you discover the joy of sucking cock.
#1 Do it
because you like it
The moment you
start doing it because you want him to think you’re nice or because he ate your
pussy or bought you dinner, you are LYING, and therefore creating a barrier
between yourself and your own (and his) pleasure. Truth is always the biggest turn-on, so if you
aren’t feeling it, that’s OK. It’s always best to move from your own
pleasure. You will know the difference and he will definitely feel the
difference. And the same goes for how you are sucking his cock. There
are 1001 techniques (some helpful, some moronic) on how to give head, but if
you are caught in the owner’s manual, you aren’t actually feeling him
and you certainly aren’t surrendering into your own joy. Plus, your unbridled
enthusiasm is what he wants most. So stay connected to what gives you the most
pleasure in your own mouth and continue from there.
#2
Slow down
Many women and men
make the mistake of grabbing someone’s dick and going to town like a spasmodic
porn star. But that’s usually no fun for most people. Imagine someone grabbing
you and thrusting away without any warm up. So take your time. Feel his curves.
Invite him out to play. Discover him. There is so much to be experienced in the
in-between spaces. Maybe you don’t even start with his cock, but gently kiss
your way up from his feet to his thighs. Your honest and curious exploration
will help keep your attention on him, but we usually need to start slow to stay
present. Remember:
the longer the anticipation, the sweeter the gratification.
#3
Communicate, communicate, communicate
Did I mention
communicate? It is so important, for everyone’s pleasure, that you remain in
constant dialogue regarding your and your partner’s desires (just don’t talk
with your mouth full). Maybe you don’t want him to cum in your mouth. Tell him
that ahead of time. Ask him if he has any areas he doesn’t want touched. Maybe
you’d like him to wash up before you put your mouth on him. Maybe you need to
work a little around his foreskin before pulling it down and exposing him (if
he’s uncircumcised). Whatever’s on your mind, say it – and invite him to do the
same. As I
said before, the truth is the biggest turn-on. And when you know each
other’s boundaries and desires, you both can easily relax into the experience
and delight in the joy of sucking cock.
#4 BONUS
TIP!
Not so much a tip
but just a gentle reminder to …
A: lube up
(saliva or coconut oil work great) and
B: cover
your teeth with your lips at all times (needs no explanation)
So, the question is: Is it smut or is it art; as I said above: Feedback, please, people. Just email me. I have an essay PORNOGRAPHY (with my EROTIC MANIFESTO) in my book with no title ... instead three definitions for the term en.light.en.ment